Comments on: Is It Really Better – To Give, Than To Receive? http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive/ All About Being An LDS Grandparent and Staying Connected To Your Grandchildren... Eternally! Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:00:21 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: LdsNana http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-78 LdsNana Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:43:41 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-78 Shirley - Thanks. I didn't interpret it as regret, although most every parent has their share. I did, want to introduce a different perspective, that has really helped me personally, overcome any regrets I may have felt, as a parent. It is my personal belief, that the role of a parent, is eternal. Now, with that perspective - we can give ourselves allowances the first time around, with our own children. I've heard it said before, that grandparenting can be a second chance. I don't know about that, but I do know that when we support our own children as parents themselves - a lot of healing can take place:-) tDMg LdsNana Shirley -

Thanks. I didn’t interpret it as regret, although most every parent has their share. I did, want to introduce a different perspective, that has really helped me personally, overcome any regrets I may have felt, as a parent. It is my personal belief, that the role of a parent, is eternal.

Now, with that perspective – we can give ourselves allowances the first time around, with our own children. I’ve heard it said before, that grandparenting can be a second chance. I don’t know about that, but I do know that when we support our own children as parents themselves – a lot of healing can take place:-)

tDMg
LdsNana

]]> By: Shirley Anderson http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-77 Shirley Anderson Fri, 05 Dec 2008 23:11:17 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-77 I like what you said about the not going back and I think that's a much better way of looking at it, thanks for saying it. I didn't realize how much the statement I made sounded like regret, which serves no purpose to anyone. Yes, I much prefer your forward thinking attitude. Thank-you for shining a light on that for me. I like what you said about the not going back and I think that’s a much better way of looking at it, thanks for saying it. I didn’t realize how much the statement I made sounded like regret, which serves no purpose to anyone.

Yes, I much prefer your forward thinking attitude. Thank-you for shining a light on that for me.

]]> By: LdsNana http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-74 LdsNana Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:32:23 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-74 Shirley - Raising our own children is exactly like being in boot camp. I am a firm believe that there is no such thing as "force" when it comes to bringing up children. As you mentioned, "we" learn to bend and work in better ways - to accomplish the teaching of parenthood. I have also learned, that it is not necessary for us to "go back" are re-raise our own children, -- but that we continue to counsel them, as parents. In this way, not only do they benefit as parents, but our grandchildren are the great beneficiaries of all this wonderful experience. This is why, grandparents are so important in the lives of their grandchildren. And yes, it is much less stressful - as a grandparent. tDMg LdsNana Shirley -

Raising our own children is exactly like being in boot camp. I am a firm believe that there is no such thing as “force” when it comes to bringing up children. As you mentioned, “we” learn to bend and work in better ways – to accomplish the teaching of parenthood.

I have also learned, that it is not necessary for us to “go back” are re-raise our own children, — but that we continue to counsel them, as parents. In this way, not only do they benefit as parents, but our grandchildren are the great beneficiaries of all this wonderful experience. This is why, grandparents are so important in the lives of their grandchildren.

And yes, it is much less stressful – as a grandparent.

tDMg
LdsNana

]]> By: Shirley Anderson http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-73 Shirley Anderson Fri, 05 Dec 2008 19:10:43 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-73 Hindsight really is 20/20, isn't it? The whole time we raised our babies, they were the ones teaching us. Oh, they learn from us, too. But they are the strongest teachers, I believe. Ever try to make a baby or teenager do something they don't want to do - their lessons come through loud and clear and it is us who do the bending, at least until we learn the best way to handle the situation - especially if it's our first child, then we're in boot camp. Then, it's our turn to return the favour of teaching to the best of our ability. You know, it's a shame that we just get really good at this stuff and our tenure is over. That's one of the nice things about grandkids. We can share what we've learned without a lot of the day to day stuff that contributes to the parental fatigue and typical stress. Still, I'd love to be able to re-raise my kids knowing then what I know now. Great post! Hindsight really is 20/20, isn’t it? The whole time we raised our babies, they were the ones teaching us. Oh, they learn from us, too. But they are the strongest teachers, I believe. Ever try to make a baby or teenager do something they don’t want to do – their lessons come through loud and clear and it is us who do the bending, at least until we learn the best way to handle the situation – especially if it’s our first child, then we’re in boot camp. Then, it’s our turn to return the favour of teaching to the best of our ability.

You know, it’s a shame that we just get really good at this stuff and our tenure is over. That’s one of the nice things about grandkids. We can share what we’ve learned without a lot of the day to day stuff that contributes to the parental fatigue and typical stress. Still, I’d love to be able to re-raise my kids knowing then what I know now.

Great post!

]]> By: LdsNana http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-72 LdsNana Fri, 05 Dec 2008 17:54:07 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-72 Jodi - There WILL come a time, when you realize that you truly have been receiving - all along:-) tDMg LdsNana Jodi -

There WILL come a time, when you realize that you truly have been receiving – all along:-)

tDMg
LdsNana

]]> By: Jodi http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-71 Jodi Fri, 05 Dec 2008 07:56:18 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-71 Beautifully written as usual. As a mom I feel that I give give give all day long and I think the receiving part will come when my kids give me grandkids. Hehe. Beautifully written as usual. As a mom I feel that I give give give all day long and I think the receiving part will come when my kids give me grandkids. Hehe.

]]> By: sankar http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-70 sankar Fri, 05 Dec 2008 04:13:47 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-70 it is true that it is better to give than to recieve. it is true that it is better to give than to recieve.

]]> By: LdsNana http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-69 LdsNana Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:42:52 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-69 Clint - In reality, I'm not so sure that any of us, ever pass the stage of childhood. Children are continually receiving, while at the same time - they are teaching. Isn't this the most innovative idea, to help each one of us learn to become more Christlike? tDMg LdsNana Clint -
In reality, I’m not so sure that any of us, ever pass the stage of childhood. Children are continually receiving, while at the same time – they are teaching. Isn’t this the most innovative idea, to help each one of us learn to become more Christlike?

tDMg
LdsNana

]]> By: LdsNana http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-68 LdsNana Fri, 05 Dec 2008 01:38:56 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-68 Rebecca - That is the beauty of being a Grand-Parent. You are not only able to be a better parent, after you have received so many lessons from your own children, but you are now able to better support your adult children, as parents themselves. What a benefit we become to both our children and grandchildren, as the years go on... tDMg LdsNana Rebecca -
That is the beauty of being a Grand-Parent. You are not only able to be a better parent, after you have received so many lessons from your own children, but you are now able to better support your adult children, as parents themselves. What a benefit we become to both our children and grandchildren, as the years go on…

tDMg
LdsNana

]]> By: clint http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/grandparent/is-it-really-better-to-give-than-to-receive//comment-page-1#comment-67 clint Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:49:10 +0000 http://www.ldsgrandparent.com/?p=359#comment-67 You are still teaching leassons. although some of use aren`t children or grandchildren anylonger You are still teaching leassons. although some of use aren`t children or grandchildren anylonger

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